Nothing Is Real
A special Christmas essay in response to all those on my Facebook page who are putting up memes of Santa punching people for saying "Happy Holidays." And also for those of the current generation complaining that the words previous generations use hurt.
The human mind is an interesting thing. It is a device far more complicated and useful than your computer. Yet, unlike with computers, one is never gifted with an instruction manual on how to use it. Perhaps at one time institutions of higher learning attempted to give such instruction, but obviously they don't bother anymore. So, what I'm about to say should be filled under mind instructions.
Objects may be solid, but otherwise nothing is real. Words only convey information. And all information is corrupted by spin every time it is relayed from one mind to another. Therefore, history never happened. Only myths and legends come through. Even science is subject to payola and personal spin. While politics would not be politics if there was any truth to it at all.
Understanding that nothing is real is essential in avoiding getting caught up in cults, political deceptions, skewed versions of history that upset you, and broad prejudices that might lead you to feel contemptuous towards large groups of people.
But if nothing is real, then there are no groups of people. There are no white people, no black people, no Americans, no Russians. There are only people, each of whom is an entire wonderous universe of perception onto themselves, into which anyone else would be lucky to even get a glimpse into.
If you chose to believe or disbelieve any information that is offered to you, that's all on you. It does not dictate the worth of others to your life. The worth of others to you is found in the interests you share, and the things you mutually decide to believe in. The things you don't agree on can just be ignored. You can just tune them out.
Yes, every human mind has that kind of power. The mind is like a radio, designed to receive, process and store information. And, just like a radio, you can tune it to focus on the information you want, while tuning out any nearby noise from information you don't want.
You put all information that you receive through your own filters. You compare and file it according to your own experiences and beliefs. You may be encountering that information in a classroom with 30 other students. But no 2 of the 30 will write it down in their minds in exactly the same way that you do.
Since no one else experiences the world exactly as you do, if words hurt, that's your fault. You have total control over your filters. So you can turn down the sensitivity to those words any time you want to. Indeed, the more you let offensive words swirl around you, the easier it becomes to tune them out. The more people use a word to hurt you, the more impervious you become to it.
You may note that what are sometimes called marginalized groups will often start to use a slur that was used against them as their own word, and use it ad nauseum. Thus the power of the slur to have hurtful impact is removed. It is then tuned out. They don't even hear it anymore.
If you choose to keep your sensitivity jacked up to max, don't go belittling or punching people because they have no way of seeing your filter settings. It is not normal to be totally jacked up like that, and no one expects to meet someone who can't take a common holiday greeting in the spirit in which it's offered. In all such cases you will be looked on as weird or uncouth for reacting to kindness with aggression.
Recognize that you are the master of your own mind. You are not weak or vulnerable to words. Nor do other people need you to protect them from words. What you need is to be able to function in a diverse society, because society will not be dominated by you, no matter how loud you scream. No one you know is the master of anyone else, no matter how hard they might try to be.
And yet, we all need each other, because no one can get through life alone. Friends are essential to life. And the more diversity there is in your collection of friends, the more interesting your future potential becomes. It is the ability to get along with different people that we need. Not for every person to be a carbon copy of ourselves, which would be useless in the extreme.
And to those of a religious nature who concern themselves with the concept of "Truth." Like all other words in this day and age, "Truth" has no meaning. It represents no solid reality. Truth does not represent a scientific fact. It is more like a religious belief. And beliefs do not form solid objects.
No truth is written in your mind exactly as in anyone else's mind. So, your truth has no consistency, and is therefore not real. It may be useful to you. It may be useful to others in writing their own truth. But it is not real. The light of your mind is making it up and holding it in your information center. And when your light goes out, your truth as only you knew it goes with it.
Even if you're someone like me who spends an obsessive amount of time trying to write my mind onto paper so that others can share it, no one who reads what I write will remember it as I wrote it. They will remember the filtered version they wrote down in their minds.
And that's as it should be. It is the most basic of human rights to copy and to change ideas. Stagnant ideas ensnare stagnant minds. Evolving ideas lead to human advances.
When one accepts that none of these things we express in human words are real, that words do not swarm in the air and congeal into solid realities, and that everyone we encounter is walking around in their own personalized dream just like us, getting along becomes easy. The need to force everyone to accept our personal dreams disappears. And all of humanity becomes beautiful for the diversity of its individual dreams.
That person you would smack in the face because you don't like the color of their skin, or the words they choose to use, or the candidate they voted for, there is so much more to that person than you will ever know, a whole universe of things you might share in common, maybe even come slightly close to seeing the same way.
How narrow minded to judge a massive human mind on one single aspect. Particularly an aspect that is not real. After all, you're not smacking them for what's in their mind. You're smacking them for what's in yours. You found a reason to justify hating them, when all they probably wanted from you was a chance to exchange ideas and seek common ground for potential friendship.
As a general rule, if you find yourself hating someone enough to hit them, you're probably the bigot in that situation. You're the one who has their mind settings all out of whack. You're the one who's not well-adjusted.
A well-adjusted person has allowed themselves to face enough of the world to adjust their mind settings to an unflappable state of chill in the face of all life's adversity. They know what information is important to be alert to, and what is just noise designed to make them vulnerable. Words can never hurt them. And violence is never an option unless one's life is threatened by something far more substantial than words.
The human mind is an interesting thing. It is a device far more complicated and useful than your computer. Yet, unlike with computers, one is never gifted with an instruction manual on how to use it. Perhaps at one time institutions of higher learning attempted to give such instruction, but obviously they don't bother anymore. So, what I'm about to say should be filled under mind instructions.
Objects may be solid, but otherwise nothing is real. Words only convey information. And all information is corrupted by spin every time it is relayed from one mind to another. Therefore, history never happened. Only myths and legends come through. Even science is subject to payola and personal spin. While politics would not be politics if there was any truth to it at all.
Understanding that nothing is real is essential in avoiding getting caught up in cults, political deceptions, skewed versions of history that upset you, and broad prejudices that might lead you to feel contemptuous towards large groups of people.
But if nothing is real, then there are no groups of people. There are no white people, no black people, no Americans, no Russians. There are only people, each of whom is an entire wonderous universe of perception onto themselves, into which anyone else would be lucky to even get a glimpse into.
If you chose to believe or disbelieve any information that is offered to you, that's all on you. It does not dictate the worth of others to your life. The worth of others to you is found in the interests you share, and the things you mutually decide to believe in. The things you don't agree on can just be ignored. You can just tune them out.
Yes, every human mind has that kind of power. The mind is like a radio, designed to receive, process and store information. And, just like a radio, you can tune it to focus on the information you want, while tuning out any nearby noise from information you don't want.
You put all information that you receive through your own filters. You compare and file it according to your own experiences and beliefs. You may be encountering that information in a classroom with 30 other students. But no 2 of the 30 will write it down in their minds in exactly the same way that you do.
Since no one else experiences the world exactly as you do, if words hurt, that's your fault. You have total control over your filters. So you can turn down the sensitivity to those words any time you want to. Indeed, the more you let offensive words swirl around you, the easier it becomes to tune them out. The more people use a word to hurt you, the more impervious you become to it.
You may note that what are sometimes called marginalized groups will often start to use a slur that was used against them as their own word, and use it ad nauseum. Thus the power of the slur to have hurtful impact is removed. It is then tuned out. They don't even hear it anymore.
If you choose to keep your sensitivity jacked up to max, don't go belittling or punching people because they have no way of seeing your filter settings. It is not normal to be totally jacked up like that, and no one expects to meet someone who can't take a common holiday greeting in the spirit in which it's offered. In all such cases you will be looked on as weird or uncouth for reacting to kindness with aggression.
Recognize that you are the master of your own mind. You are not weak or vulnerable to words. Nor do other people need you to protect them from words. What you need is to be able to function in a diverse society, because society will not be dominated by you, no matter how loud you scream. No one you know is the master of anyone else, no matter how hard they might try to be.
And yet, we all need each other, because no one can get through life alone. Friends are essential to life. And the more diversity there is in your collection of friends, the more interesting your future potential becomes. It is the ability to get along with different people that we need. Not for every person to be a carbon copy of ourselves, which would be useless in the extreme.
And to those of a religious nature who concern themselves with the concept of "Truth." Like all other words in this day and age, "Truth" has no meaning. It represents no solid reality. Truth does not represent a scientific fact. It is more like a religious belief. And beliefs do not form solid objects.
No truth is written in your mind exactly as in anyone else's mind. So, your truth has no consistency, and is therefore not real. It may be useful to you. It may be useful to others in writing their own truth. But it is not real. The light of your mind is making it up and holding it in your information center. And when your light goes out, your truth as only you knew it goes with it.
Even if you're someone like me who spends an obsessive amount of time trying to write my mind onto paper so that others can share it, no one who reads what I write will remember it as I wrote it. They will remember the filtered version they wrote down in their minds.
And that's as it should be. It is the most basic of human rights to copy and to change ideas. Stagnant ideas ensnare stagnant minds. Evolving ideas lead to human advances.
When one accepts that none of these things we express in human words are real, that words do not swarm in the air and congeal into solid realities, and that everyone we encounter is walking around in their own personalized dream just like us, getting along becomes easy. The need to force everyone to accept our personal dreams disappears. And all of humanity becomes beautiful for the diversity of its individual dreams.
That person you would smack in the face because you don't like the color of their skin, or the words they choose to use, or the candidate they voted for, there is so much more to that person than you will ever know, a whole universe of things you might share in common, maybe even come slightly close to seeing the same way.
How narrow minded to judge a massive human mind on one single aspect. Particularly an aspect that is not real. After all, you're not smacking them for what's in their mind. You're smacking them for what's in yours. You found a reason to justify hating them, when all they probably wanted from you was a chance to exchange ideas and seek common ground for potential friendship.
As a general rule, if you find yourself hating someone enough to hit them, you're probably the bigot in that situation. You're the one who has their mind settings all out of whack. You're the one who's not well-adjusted.
A well-adjusted person has allowed themselves to face enough of the world to adjust their mind settings to an unflappable state of chill in the face of all life's adversity. They know what information is important to be alert to, and what is just noise designed to make them vulnerable. Words can never hurt them. And violence is never an option unless one's life is threatened by something far more substantial than words.

